According to Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, when we are dying or have suffered a catastrophic loss, we all move through five distinct stages of grief. We go into d e n i a l, because the loss is so unthinkable, we can’t imagine it’s true. We become a n g r y with everyone - angry with survivors, angry with ourselves. Then we bargain. We offer everything we have. We offer up our souls in exchange for just one more day. When the b a r g a i n i n g has failed and the anger is too hard to maintain, we fall into d e p r e s s i o n , despair, until finally we have to accept that we have done everything we can. We let go. We let go and move into a c c e p t a n c e .